The Derogatory Lads Spoiling Our 'So-Called Well Settled' Society

A small populous port city, lying on the bank of River Tapi, is the Gujarat's highly industrialized and urbanized city - Surat. It has been an age old glorious city of India. Since the time of British its prosperity has grown by leaps and gallops. It used to be the main center for the Dutch and French East India Company's factories. Since then the gradual progress has made Surat almost equivalent to the Metro city - Mumbai! It can be considered one of the finest cities of whole of the India! If one sees a forest from an aero plane, it looks lush green but when one observes things a bit more keenly the botches are easily spotted!

Though the glory of Surat cannot be defined, there are many issues, which are equally found everywhere else! Here's one such example I want to draw your attention to!

Aaall is well!!! Other than the 'environment' that they live in! The previous statement has a meaning to be read between the lines! Environment does not only deal with the physical environment that the scientists talk about! It is the social environment that is referred to over here. What is the dearest thing to a child, an infant? Ammmm, possibly his toys, his belongings and his family. But just after that age, when one enters the 'Teen Age' there are an array of physical, mental, emotional and psychological changes occurring. One such change that happens with the onset of puberty is the urge to have a partner. But of course there are ethics in dealing with such emotions. A proper attitude is the first and foremost requirement. It is a fragile age and should be handled with utmost care!

The boys dwelling in Surat are no less than Rowdy creatures! There was time in India when women were given utmost respect. In the history of Gujarat the 'Baravatias' or simply a sort of thieves respected women so much that even if a single man of their team misbehaved he was killed! And it is a recent tale, almost 200 years ago! But the situation today has totally toppled! The problem that each and every young girl faces there is the harassment of the boys! Imagine a situation where a cockroach enters your house. Do you tame it or kill it? It is much the same situation here! The situation has worsened till the extent that the girls cannot do without using abusive language! But the girls of Surat have adjusted to and adapted to the situations which they are not supposed to! They have made up their minds not to fight! And if you're not strong enough to fight the people around you, you're crushed! Even if a girl is walking silently on the road, there are boys who move past them, doing all sorts of rubbish things! The scenario is such that if a girl doesn't have a boyfriend than she is harassed, as all the boys are behind girls, whether the girls like it or not! This is not humanly!

Here go the words coined by a Surati: "I have an array of illusive or so-called boyfriends just to show the other guys that I'm powerful enough. I give different names to different boys just to thrive in the dirty environment, although I have none! I cannot do without speaking bad words on certain roads. The boys are habituated to listening to all the abusive language and they are still the same tyrants! They have no shame or no attitude to deal with girls! When we refuse them on the face, they become so emotional and persuasive and they try all the means to convince us! Some boys even retaliate with bad intentions. Once a few boys were riding on a bike and a few of us were walking on the road. They were behind us, but we were not responding to their actions. So ultimately when nothing happened they showed an abusive hand gesture to all of us! But I would also say that exceptions are universal!" Things cannot be reported to the parent as if it is done than they wouldn't be allowed to step out of the house. On the contrary the concern of the parents is equally justified! This is just the introductory part of the real world there, which I have been able to describe. But I'm sure that worse things than these might be happening there as nobody but the resident is aware of the real evil!

If these actions are not given due attention and a check, than it is hard to imagine the condition of India in the year 2020! If the boys do all such rubbish at this age, what would they be able to do, after a certain age! We say that there are many bad guys around, but what the real problem is that these bad guys aren't given a check at right age. Nobody is bad, it is upon us to let 'em be bad or good!

This issue is not only prevalent in Surat or is limited to it, it is universal, though it may be less or more prominent! Surat is just taken as a matter of example, while this situation prevails in many places. It is not only Surat! Please, don't create any issues, as in why have I chosen only Surat. That's just because I came to know about Surat, and its quite rational that we can't write about anyone else, whom we don't know, isn't it? And to sum things up exceptions are universal!!! (Please pay attention on this line)

Expected Consequences: What happens when the chain reaction in the nuclear power plant goes uncontrolled! You can imagine nothing but wide spread disaster! The same concept can be applied here! If things go uncontrolled, than it may be theses people who in the longer run of life, would treat women as 'objects' in all possible manner! The word 'feeling' would have died by the time and 'professionalism' would seep in the lives of the people. The life of a couple may not be the life that we have right now! When we have bad aspirations from the very beginning of something, there is bound to be a more severe and critical result! So it is our responsibility to correct things!

I feel that the girls should unite against these bad guys but that's not the end of the story! Something concrete should be done, by the elderly class, because it is more effective than simply the girls uniting! And what I feel is that the elderly class shouldn't shut the girls in a room, they should let them be 'creators of their own destiny' and explore the world! They should in fact, help their children to identify the black spots on the society and help them to fight against those black spots, with utmost bravery and boldness! The girls shouldn't be taught to stay away from the bad guys, they should be taught to withstand and fight against those devils, till the extent that they do not think of performing any more rubbish acts! It is the parents and family members who need to understand this concept, otherwise it's a mere failure! These lame things must be curbed; it is really high time now! We must all unite, we must all lend our hands to save the motherland! Let's join hands to eradicate or at least reduce this burning issue! Let India be once again called the 'Sone Ki Chidiya'! It is we who are directly or indirectly affected and it is our duty to perform the remedial part, when we are aware about the mishaps happening around us! We have the ultimate power to change the world! We are the part of the same society in which these things happen! We often ignore small things, but we often do not realize the seriousness of that ignorance! It is the inevitable truth that the small things take the bigger forms, to which we weep, but had we taken care at the initial stages than no such issues would have been created. Then we sit and grumble about the past! But it's not true. Wrong things are always wrong and should be controlled when they are at lowest stage otherwise they take bigger forms that we all see in the Newspapers and on the Net! Ignorance is the worse habit, be it any sphere of life and greatest hindrance to our progress! So let's vow to do our part and change the scenario of this awful place and make it really magnificent!

A special note: We many a times become very selfish, especially at times when it comes to solving problems. We often think just for ourselves, as in how can we save ourselves and how can we be safe! We don't think about others at the critical moments, but that's not the case! We must think from a wider angle, to solve a problem, though it may create a few hardships for us! But that effort of ours doesn't go in vain as it eradicates the problem or leads to a better life at least! So we must not think that it doesn't affect us, so we are least bothered, or it will create a hell lot of problems in our life so we mustn't touch the hem of it! Just imagine that if each one of us thinks in the same manner how do we suppose that the change is possible?

The truth is that, that such issues cannot be handled by me or you alone, it is we all who have to unite and turn over, to eliminate such issues. There is never a single person who can make a change, there is always a mass, a group which works to accomplish a common goal! It is we all who are involved and it is we who have to make the required changes!!!

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